Dating in your 40s 50s and beyond

I love men. It really is ALL about you, ladies! The vast majority of these guys are not the self-centered, testosterone-led, immature boys you met and maybe married in your 20s or 30s. They have matured.

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Fellas, if you're in your 50s, single and dating and feeling like you're not getting anywhere , consider this a little friendly feedback from the ladies. Maybe you've heard it all before, maybe it doesn't apply to you, maybe you've got the dating thing down -- it doesn't matter. When it comes to women and dating, I say you can never know enough. And women, lest you think you're off the hook, you're not. Even though I'm talking to the guys here, many of these points apply to you too.

So listen up. Dating in midlife isn't always easy, but at least you're all in it together, and you can all make it great. So men, before you break out into a cold sweat, know that all this is well intended and researched. I've gathered input from three of my most trusted single girlfriends whose ages range from early 40s to lates.

They're smart, sane, and they're here to help. And so am I. Since I got married for the first time at 51, I can speak from experience when it comes to dating men in their 50s. Maybe you're lonely, horny, you want a girlfriend, need some company, or just need to get laid. Who can blame you? We ALL want love, but some guys blow it by rushing. To me, that's a turn-off. If you don't sleep with them fast enough, they get frustrated and lose interest. My Advice: Slow down.

Don't get too flirty too fast, don't text, and definitely don't sext. Even if you're fresh out of a miserable marriage and new to the singles scene, take a breath. You can be romantic and take the lead, but exercise patience. Guys that are too fast getting in are probably going to be too fast getting out. Chivalry and romance aren't dead -- in fact, they're alive and well and much appreciated. So take your time getting to know your date; ask questions, be curious. And when you've accrued a decent amount of courtship hours, then you can bang away.

In other words, you're furious. We get your circumstances might suck, but don't let it consume you. Don't let your anger turn into emotional baggage you carry around everywhere you go. You can prepare a lovely Italian meal for a guy, and all of a sudden he brings up the fact his ex made the best lasagna of all time. They talk about how awful their ex-wives are, and how much money they had to give them. Dump the baggage, dude. Stop talking about your ex, your kids, your money, etc.

If you're still that angry and wounded, get help. Some therapy, meditation, or a little alone time wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for you. The point is, hold back from dating until you're healed. Listening and wanting to know everything about her earns you major points. Let go of your fear and allow yourself to love again. Despite the occasional dating disasters and mating missteps, there's a lot to love about you guys. You're older and wiser, smarter and sexier than you were in your younger days.

Plus, your experience and maturity give you more depth and better perspective in life. I say it's time to use it to your advantage. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. We love you guys and want the best for you, so here goes. Chicks dig fellas in their 50s. We're rooting for you men, so go get 'em just don't go too fast. Follow Treva Brandon on Twitter: Treva Brandon. Writer, fitness professional, dating expert, imparting wit and wisdom about life and late blooming love at www.

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Dating in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond. 55 likes. Dating in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond. The Thrill of Dating in Your 40's—and Beyond. Being single at forty is often portrayed in the wider media with humor or pity, and rarely reflects the reality that .

W hen a divorced woman on "the wrong side of 45 with a brace of kids" began to write about her experiences of being single last week, she opened her blog with the extraordinary statement that she was in "relationship no man's land", condemned to be alone for the rest of her life. The anonymous woman, whose blog is called The Plankton, is not alone in believing that there are problems specific to being a single woman in middle age. A survey this month found eight out of 10 women over 50 think they have become invisible to men. Seven out of 10 women in the study felt overlooked by the fashion industry, while three-quarters of women in their 60s believed they had lost their identity by being labelled as a "mum". Women and men are living longer and fitter lives; the average age at which we divorce is rising — 41 now for women and 43 for men — and the number of single parents is projected to rise to 1.

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Fellas, if you're in your 50s, single and dating and feeling like you're not getting anywhere , consider this a little friendly feedback from the ladies. Maybe you've heard it all before, maybe it doesn't apply to you, maybe you've got the dating thing down -- it doesn't matter. When it comes to women and dating, I say you can never know enough. And women, lest you think you're off the hook, you're not. Even though I'm talking to the guys here, many of these points apply to you too. So listen up.

The Thrill of Dating in Your 40’s—and Beyond

All Rights Reserved. Terms and Conditions of Service. For those of you in your 40s or 50s who are recently divorced, widowed, or just eager to re-partner, dating again can be daunting. You may want to think and act like a year-old, but your seasoning tells another tale and may actually improve the chances for success. The truth is that dating does change when you get older…and, in many ways, for the better. The paradox is that your maturity offers you many advantages over the youthful daters. There is no ticking of the biological clock. Men and women in their 40s and 50s are generally more self-assured.

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