Dating another man while pregnant

I know I will eventually find my great match. I found out I was pregnant after we broke it off. We practiced safe sex, and yet here I am. I am already accustomed to being a single mom, and I always wanted a 3rd child, a dream that I thought I had to give up on when my husband left. Of course, I realize that my pool of interested bachelors may be limited or different than it was before.

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As a result, most articles seem to focus on how to get through the next nine months with some shred of sanity, and stress the importance of asking for help. Growing a human is a strange, uncomfortable, foreign endeavour even at the best of times. In my perhaps naive opinion, fear is the worst enemy of a healthy mom and healthy baby. One evening, the pack of us ended up splitting pitchers of margaritas and plates of nachos at a local Mexican spot, and on our way out I overheard a heated conversation among a group of women at the table next to us.

Though their conversation was anything but personal, I felt attacked. This sentiment seems to be echoed almost everywhere I turned. I still find the same sort of fuckboi types attractive, of course—you know the ones: That type of guy is no longer into pursuing me. Thanks to my ever-expanding bump, I can completely avoid the type of partnership that would most likely have ended in a lot of wasted time—and wasted tears. By making the choice to power ahead with what I know is right for me, I have created an accidental filter that blocks the non-serious and non-committal.

Yes, being pregnant on my own cuts down the population of people interested in dating me, but is that such a bad thing? Once I noticed the shift I wanted to test this whole theory out on a more measurable scale, so I settled upon a research strategy. I made three online dating accounts on three platforms—Bumble, Tinder and Hinge—because, science.

For a hot minute I thought about swiping right on everyone I came across to gather data on a wide sample of the population, but in the end I decided it would be more effective to follow my usual swiping tendencies and study how different the experience actually was while pregnant. I had tons of matches on all three platforms and, just like always, some were terrible at conversation, ghosted for no reason or seemed great but avoided plans to actually meet.

Plus I already had a couple safe, respectful, trustworthy hookup guys in my back pocket for those particularly horny pregnant woman moments. It was more than my delicate pregnant ego could take. I ended up meeting a guy I liked a lot—our first date was at a cool craft brewery at the very start of summer: A couple months later at my ultrasound, I realized that I had unknowingly conceived the day before our first date.

Then he went to travel around Greece for a month, and shortly after I got a positive pregnancy test. I reasoned it was wrong to tell him I was pregnant by a sperm donor via text message, so I avoided the subject in the lengthy conversations we had while he was away. R returned from Greece almost exactly a month into my pregnancy and I was next-level nervous to see him. We immediately became exclusive, he bought the pregnancy book I was reading and shared his notes without being too imposing on me and my plans, and our dates continued to be as cute as always, just with a few fewer cocktails on my end.

Everything was going great, until his friends got involved. Turned out his ex still shared his Kindle account and saw the pregnancy book we were both reading, which lead to a group text amongst his friends that I happened to be meeting that night. As soon as it was clarified that he had not in fact gotten me pregnant, his friends were even more confused, insisting he could do better. He repeated all of this information back to me on a date a few days later and we both had a laugh, but the following weekend he sent me a text message to abruptly end things.

What year-old does that?! In the end, I had two really great takeaways from the whole experience. And two: I am not any less loveable because I took control of becoming a mother on my own terms. My swiping experiences since have been positive, but no other sparks just yet. Have you ever come into contact with anyone who has genuinely been alone forever? We all find love, regardless of what our families look like or the fact that our baggage might come in an adorable kid-shaped package.

A dear friend of mine recently met me for tea at a local brunch hotspot and midway through our conversation she made a comment that instantly brought me to tears. If being a mother makes me the best version of myself, then the best person for me—for us—is right around the corner. Jessi Cruickshank: Sign up here. Filed under: Sign Up for Our Newsletter.

like if before you found out you were pregnant you loved someone else but just so happened to get pregnant by an ex by a one time thing. I just think you'll be much happier if you can focus on the pregnancy and not have the drama of dating a new man right now. Once the baby is.

When I was pregnant, the last place I expected to find myself was on Tinder. Honestly, I still wanted to be desired by the opposite sex and have that feeling of wondering what a date might lead to—a hookup, a holiday romance, a love affair—rather than letting my pregnancy turn me into someone who was OK with feeling overlooked. Plus, my posse of girlfriends was neatly divided between those who were shacked up with long-term partners and those who were still hitting the playing field hard. What I wanted was to enjoy digital dating before my days were filled with changing nappies and taking naps.

About 11 years ago, I thought I had met Mr.

But in the real world, sadly most women end up single parents before then can even clearly read the positive sign on a pregnancy test. Most of the young women I teach are balancing preparing for the unexpected with taking time for themselves. Every parent, expecting or pro needs balance and for many women a new partner may be the most support they get during a pregnancy.

Is It In Poor Taste For Pregnant Women To Date?

We live in a new age, where there are more and more single, pregnant mothers. Are there men out there who are actually interested in dating pregnant women? The reality is YES!! If you are showing, then chances are if the man wants to date you, he is accepting of you and the fact that you are pregnant. He may have some questions about the dad, but chances are if he is interested in dating you than he is not interested in judging you. And, you should ignore the judgments of other people in your life who may not be supportive of your endeavors to find love while you are pregnant.

Dating While Pregnant

I fell in love across the Atlantic in a country more beautiful than God himself while four months pregnant with another man's child. The first time I saw him, it was nighttime in late August, the moon a perfect sickle. My plane landed in Accra, Ghana, and the air smelled like curry spices, yam and dry heat. A van was waiting to retrieve us from the airport, the driver dressed in slacks standing on the outside with a sign that read "NYU in Ghana. Seth was a CRA: Community Resident Assistant. He was 26 years old, a native of Ghana and an employee of the university. They put him in the house to guide us students along, show us the ropes and answer the millions of questions we had living in a foreign nation, like how to guard against being cheated out of our money and how much a taxi should cost. Orientation lasted six hours the day after my arrival. We were told to avoid long walks at night for fear of rapists, to avoid carrying a bag for fear of muggers, to avoid drinking tap water for fear of cholera and to avoid mosquitoes for fear of malaria.

If I could go back to my pre-pregnancy self, this is what I would tell her:

His recent ex is actually pregnant by him. When she got pregnant, he told her the best thing would be to get an abortion. So he gave her the option to give it up for adoption or she could keep the baby, but he was not going to be a part of their lives.

‘I Went On 15 Dates While I Was Pregnant’

I was in the middle of interviewing a popular yoga teacher for a magazine story when I saw my phone light up. My stomach immediately jumped into my throat. Without much time to explain, I asked the yogi to hold my hand. Your results are in. It had worked. After one sperm donor, two intrauterine inseminations and thousands of dollars paid to the NYU Fertility Center, I was pregnant. I ended my yogi interview with as much Zen as possible, which was not much, then ran into the street, screaming. Hands trembling, I called my parents and sister, who cried with joy. I simultaneously rolled my eyes and beamed. We shared gleeful good-byes. Starving already, I was off to enjoy a triumphant falafel.

Here's What Happened When I Tried Dating While Pregnant

As a result, most articles seem to focus on how to get through the next nine months with some shred of sanity, and stress the importance of asking for help. Growing a human is a strange, uncomfortable, foreign endeavour even at the best of times. In my perhaps naive opinion, fear is the worst enemy of a healthy mom and healthy baby. One evening, the pack of us ended up splitting pitchers of margaritas and plates of nachos at a local Mexican spot, and on our way out I overheard a heated conversation among a group of women at the table next to us. Though their conversation was anything but personal, I felt attacked. This sentiment seems to be echoed almost everywhere I turned.

I know I will eventually find my great match. I found out I was pregnant after we broke it off. We practiced safe sex, and yet here I am. I am already accustomed to being a single mom, and I always wanted a 3rd child, a dream that I thought I had to give up on when my husband left. Of course, I realize that my pool of interested bachelors may be limited or different than it was before. I consider myself to be an all-around great catch, but I am sure this will narrow down my options for a while.

I have been contemplating leaving the father as it is not a healthy relationship and there doesn't seem there is any way to fix it at all. But I was just wondering if anyone, after leaving, put themselves back out there after leaving? Did you find someone special? Are you still looking? I am not in any rush as I will want someone for my child to call daddy but I don't want the same mistake to happen like with the father. Guess I'm worried that once I actually start gaining weight I won't be attractive enough to find anyone. I would focus more on the pregnancy than trying to date. Anyone you find while pregnant probably doesn't have the best intentions.

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By clicking the submit button above you give your express consent to our Privacy Policy including use of profiling to find you matches and you agree to our Terms of Use. At this point, you might feel like you are doomed to be single, at least until the baby is born. However, there is good news! You may be surprised to learn that there are plenty of single men who have no qualms about dating a pregnant woman. All you have to do is be true to yourself, be open about the situation, and maintain your standards. By telling him right out the gate that there will be a baby in the future, this will give him the opportunity to duck out if he is uncomfortable with the idea of dating a pregnant woman before emotions get involved by either of you. While it may be difficult to find a date, you never want to compromise on what you will and will not accept in a partner.

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