Is she dating me out of pity

Discussion in ' Self Improvement ' started by Budmeiser , Jan 21, Log in or Sign up. Feel like girls are nice to me out of pity Discussion in ' Self Improvement ' started by Budmeiser , Jan 21, Jan 21, 1. I need some dating advice. I'm currently at university and currently working on quitting PMO, but am always a little depressed because it's been so long since I've had a girlfriend.

Would you date someone out of pity, boredom, loneliness, for money?

I think each of those areas have certain exceptions.. Yeah I could see it happening to date them.. But in the end this is gonna leave a HUGE burden on the relationship. I would say that people who are bored will do other things with their time: Sex, work, partying, etc.. I haven't seen people date out of boredom so I can't really speak from experience - I can merely say that I wouldn't date someone for this reason. But still it comes down to context.. Sometimes people are lonely merely because they ended a previous relationship..

Leaving them wanting that affection emotional need and as such they have to fulfill it.. In turn they end up trying things out with someone new. Other than that, it's nice having someone stand by your side.. But you WOULD need to be attracted to that person otherwise it just isn't going to work out for long. It's been an ongoing debate that women are money-hungry but I don't really see why.. Most my classmates are female and most the guys I know are alcoholic bums..

The ones who are better than the alcoholic bums are the ones who have chosen a life-partner and are no longer on the "market", so to speak. Money - a definite no-no. I have my own job and I make my own money and on top of that I am working towards getting a fantastic degree which will land me my dream career. I want to be the one who wines and dines the girl and spoils her.

I don't want to date someone to be better off financially. While I agree that a relationship should be equal between the guy and girl, a part of me still respects the traditional role that the man should take care of his woman and give her financial security. Boredom - no. My life is extremely busy and I don't usually have any free time on my hands anymore.

I don't usually have time to feel bored. If I do have any spare time I usually end up relaxing at home because I'm so tired frm everything else I have been doing, or just go out with friends to parties or just to dinner or any other social gathering. Loneliness - now this may be the only reason out of the 4 you have listed that I may consider dating someone for. But at the same time, just because I am lonely it does not mean I will date just anyone.

I still have to be attracted to the girl and have that chemistry there for things to work. I mean, even with my busy life I am still lonely right now when it comes to dating and I know there are girl friends of mine that are in the same position but I am not going to date them because we are not attracted to each other and we don't have that spark. I mean yeah, it would be great to have a girl by my side but the fact that you are lonely because you have nobody to date shows that you re not happy with your life in general which also means you are insecure when you are alone.

I don't think it's good to date just because you're lonely because you may become clingy and rely on the person you are dating to bring you all the happiness you crave. This is where loneliness and boredom overlap. If you are bored you should do things with your life that make you happy and give your life some fulfillment.

I do other things to keep me occupied and I actually enjoy them and they make me happy which is why I am not so focused on my loneliness so much anymore. Plus, with all these things I do in my spare time, I have met some really nice girls who may turn into potential dates in the near future. Pity - only if I was genuinely attracted to the person. I would love to be the guy that makes the girl feel special and love herself again.

But at the same time, I wouldn't want this to lead to the girl being clingy just because I gave her that special attention that she needed. This may lead to me having to be responsible for most of the relationship and puttingin most of the effort to make it work when really we should being doing that together. Hope I helped. I would have to say B You are so desperate to find love that you accept even if you have no feelings towards them because feelings are something that can develop over time, you might not have feelings for the person right away, but you may later upon getting to know them better.

As far as being 'desperate for love' goes it's more so 'giving love a chance' because really, how often does love at first sight occur? I would only date someone who I was attracted too. Its the only way I could date someone infact. I can not even imagine kissing, hugging and especially having sex with someone who I didn't find attractive.

It grosses me out that people will actually do that. Pity - Nope, I follow the methodology of Mr. T; I only pity fools. Someone I date will need to have the inteligence to hold a conversation, so fools are out of the question. Boredom - We've all done weirder things when we've been bored. For example; spending an hour trying to fold a single piece of paper in half, 8 consecutive times. Money - Well, I " ain't nothing but a goldigga' ". What I mean is that guys are a thousand, million, billion, trillion times more likely to give a girl chance when she is feeling like that.

The chances of a girl giving a guy a chance who is in that situation, heck, a guy is more likely to win the lottery than a girl giving him a chance. I would be wasting both of our time The longer I waste time with him the one he was meant to have is missing OUT on him.. Pity dating isn't a favor it's self serving.. Who am I to take "pity" on someone Arrogant much?

I will step aside and let the one that was meant have him while I go find mine. But I'd make it clear that it's just friendly so they don't expect more. Sure I feel lonely at times and wish I had a boyfriend. But this can only be remedied by a guy I really like. The company of someone who I'm not that into will not make me happy.

So a big fat no. I normally would put E in this situation, but the problem is, I actually have dated sumone because I felt terrible for wanting to rejecting them. She had a lot going on and she needed me, so I was there for her, whatever she wanted me to be. You never ever want to date some one because of money. No to pity because that's not fair on the girl.

It's cheesy but their is someone for everyone and she would be better off with someone who doesn't feel sorry for her in any way. I would and have gone on a date because I was bored and lonely and I would date for money too as long as it was clear it was a date she was paying for and not any other services! Heck yeah. My most recent ex was out of boredom and pity. He kept harassing me and then posted on fb about how he didn't think anyone could ever love him after I rejected him twice.

The third time I cracked and said yes to him. That would totally use him, and cause me hassle later when I have to break up with him. Break up is inevitable if you don't have any attraction to the person. You can do that with a car or maybe even a piece of clothing but human beings have emotions and it only confuses people further I'm not a gold digger! That's just mean on you're partner. I voted E, because I don't compromise.

There are or there aren't feelings there AND I would never just date someone I didn't know before, so I already have to know his personality, his opinions, beliefs and stands. So whilst some say that feelings can develop over time, this isn't and has never been the case with me. I don't really see much distinction between boredom and loneliness. If you are lonely you are probably bored also, and if you are bored it is probably because you are alone.

I'm basically debating with myself right now whether to date someone out of boredom and loneliness. The woman I want to date isn't interested and just wants to be friends. This other girl is into me and we have seen a few movies together but I haven't made any move on her. I am kind of attracted to her but not really. She is not bad looking, just not my type. She's one of my friends old girlfriends. Perhaps as the song says, if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with?

I would pro make friends with them or try to help them depending on whether I could or nt: I've never used a guy before. I just can't. And I don't know how other people do it. If I'm not attracted to them in any way, then I'll let them know I just want to stay friends. No Way girl! Thing is in the end, you strangely enough will feel resentful torwards this person cause you'll have felt somewhat manipulated into being with them.

I went out with someone from work because everyone convinced me he was a nice guy. 2. In eighth I tried to date someone out of pity, she turned me down. well if she is only dating you out of pity id say to dump her and find someone that actually likes you and wants to be with you because nobody.

I think each of those areas have certain exceptions.. Yeah I could see it happening to date them.. But in the end this is gonna leave a HUGE burden on the relationship. I would say that people who are bored will do other things with their time: Sex, work, partying, etc..

I think each of those areas have certain exceptions..

There are people who think that love is as easy as breathing, but little did they know that someone commits suicide because of love, so now, when you love a person, is it love or pity? Try this quiz! When you are done taking this quiz and you didn't like the results, well the only person who knows who you are is yourself so don't get dissapointed, this is just for fun!!!

My girlfriend has been dating me out of pity, how do I handle it?

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Feel like girls are nice to me out of pity

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Would you date someone out of pity, boredom, loneliness, for money?

Chat or rant, adult content, spam, insulting other members, show more. Harm to minors, violence or threats, harassment or privacy invasion, impersonation or misrepresentation, fraud or phishing, show more. Yahoo Answers. My girlfriend has been dating me out of pity, how do I handle it? I have been with my girl for a while and I told her that I was falling in love with her and she said she had the same feeling for me but six months later her friend calls me and says she was telling people she was dating me out of pity the whole time and then she told me in person how should i handle this and what Also I forgot to add I asked her if it was true she said yes. From that point I basically said I don't think we should see each other but apparently it didn't end from there. Report Abuse. Are you sure you want to delete this answer? Yes No.

Feel like girls are nice to me out of pity

I think each of those areas have certain exceptions.. Yeah I could see it happening to date them.. But in the end this is gonna leave a HUGE burden on the relationship. I would say that people who are bored will do other things with their time: Sex, work, partying, etc..

i dont know if this girl likes me or has pity on me

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